When I tell people Oscar has Down Syndrome the reply I 9/10 times receive is "I am so sorry".
Why? Why are you sorry?
Why is it that we expect things that we don't comleatly understand to be so bad that we have to appologise?
I just dont get it!
I know have felt this way but why?
When I first found out Oscar had Downs I was overwelmed but didn't really focas on the 'Downs' part, it was more Oscars bottom and heart I was worried about. As he started getting better, it really started hitting me hard.
Oscar wasn't EVER going to have a normal life.
Oscar wasn't going to learn anything.
Was this life even a life worth living?
As the months went by God changed my heart and the way I saw Oscar. He was always so full of joy! I realised....
Oscar will have a normal life as long as I allow him!
Oscar will learn, just in 'oscar' time!
Oscars life is SOOOOO worth it.
When people say "I am so sorry" I am scared they think all the things I did and it scares me.
It scares me because I want the world to know what a blessing Down Syndrome is. I want them to treat Oscar like any other child and I am terrified they won't.... simply because they dont understand.
Its OK to be differant! Thats what changes the world :)
I am sick of hearing "I am so sorry"
One day I hope the world becomes a place where you hear "You are soo lucky, what a blessing!"
Thats the way I feel about Oscar, its like winning the lottery a million times :)
I am so in love with this little boy, and his funny faces :)
That has always bothered me to when people tell me there are sorry. I think DS kids are the sweetest, closest things to heaven, and it is a blessing for anyone to have a child like this. Now is my baby will make it so I can enjoy the life of a child with Downs.
ReplyDeleteThats exactly right Teresa, I didnt mean to sound rude last night to the people who are saying it, i was just so sick of it! I know they havnt expreianced it but I think it should be more tought and understood :)
ReplyDeleteI think those words bother anyone who has (or knows) what a blessing it truly is to have a child with DS. I am one of seven children (soon to be nine) and we are not the norm in society by a long shot. I have an autistic brother with ADHD, another with ADD, a sister with Aspergers, and a brother who's had 20 surgeries. And you know what? I wouldn't trade ANY of them for the world! They are my siblings whom the LORD has blessed me with!
ReplyDeleteMy family and I are adopting two little angels from Ukraine with Down Syndrome - my parents will actually be leaving within three weeks to get them! And you know what? I cannot wait to see them! Spiritually, they are already my sisters, and I just want to be able to bring them home right now and hold them in my arms! ^_^ All children are a blessing in this life, we are all just different from each other. Society just needs to learn to cherish those who are different rather than picking on them!
May the LORD continue to bless you and your family - especially your Cousin Oscar - may He grow up in knowledge of the LORD and His awesome love for Him! Many blessings to you my sister - God keep you all of your days.
Adam, WOW! I am so proud of you and your family! I too have a cousin with asburgus :) Your sisters will be great! Downs is such a blessing :)
ReplyDeleteGod bless you too!